Following is a review written by an earnest young mother of a 3-4 year old daughter. She is writing about having previewed a rough draft of my upcoming book Ask More, Tell Less.
The preview of the book I got was extremely helpful. Literally for the very first day I started asking my daughter open questions, my life changed. At first, it was just me, I was relaxed, and I did not feel as if my head was going to explode any minute. Even the first time I asked Susie “are you going to grow up or grow down?” and she said, “grow down.” I didn’t even get upset. the responsibility was no longer on me to make those decisions. she did quickly catch on and the simple question of “can you do this yourself or do you need help” took more stress off me than you could ever believe. I feel as if we relate now as two people who love each other and can be independent yet still coexist. I can see my daughter really knows she is the boss of herself and that mommy is the boss of mommy. It is great. We still have moments but now we have choices and it doesn’t ruin our whole day, we can move on.
One parent, after a series of workshops Greg conducted for their “Parents and Tots” group wrote him, saying, “…as a parent, I think your ideas about talking with children are profoundly new and surprising, not least because the central concept—asking kids questions—is so darn obvious.”
Every time I consciously practice a method, the effect is like lightning, and clears up and refreshens the air almost immediately. It is so fun to see my children join me in catching their own (and sometimes even mine or my husband’s) growing-up behavior, hearing their ideas about how to solve a problem, or choosing to handle something on their own.
— Marleen Arends-van Tilburg
As a mother or two sons, I have relied on Greg Warburton’s practical and thoughtful parenting advice on many occasions. In his latest book, The Art of Asking, he continues to provide parents with the tools to ask the right questions in the right way of their children as they travel along the journey together towards becoming more self-reliant young people and adults…As a parent, who wouldn’t want to see their child develop these skills?
— Barb Foster-Macal
Read what people are saying about Greg’s mental-and-emotional self-management skill training in the classroom, in relationships, and on the athletic field:
In his ebook, Peak Performance Mental Game, counselor and sports performance mental trainer, Greg Warburton, addresses the one aspect of athletic performance that is often overlooked and which may be the most important thing yet—the mental game. Unlike the usual exhortations provided by those in the field to “be positive” and “visualize”, Warburton’s book takes this much further by providing a step by step approach to how to observe the mind and learn the emotional self-management skills that not only produce a better and more consistent performance but, more importantly, can be applied to all areas of life to enhance individual well-being. As noted psychiatrist, Daniel Segal often reminds us—what children need to build is resilience and Warburton’s book shows you in powerful and simple steps how to do just that! A must read for anyone involved in athletics or wanting to understand how mindfulness can be translated into action in any context.
— Béa Gonzalez, Mother of two young athletes
Thank you for sending your Peak Performance Mental Game eBook so quickly to us. As a mom of a very competitive 12 year old baseball player, I am finding the techniques you have developed through EFT to be very practical, positive, and enlightening. As these young players develop- both athletically and mentally- it becomes more and more important to utilize techniques that can encourage self-acceptance and self-responsibility. As you carefully point out on page 43, the building blocks of self-reliance and independence start with the four building blocks of self-observation, self-honesty, self-responsibility and self-acceptance.
As a parent, who wouldn’t want to see their child develop these skills?
Currently, we are working specifically on working above the “Blame” line and focusing on what part of the situation could be his responsibility. In reference to page 44, my son can honestly state that he is “in between the “I’m just fine, I don’t need to learn new stuff” box and the “I’m curious maybe I’ll look into it” box. When I heard him state to his coach at one game that:
“I know, I know, I know” (in reference to where he needs to be at cutoff on a play) he realized he really was in between those two boxes. Practicing Self-honesty allows oneself to listen with an open mind and allow yourself the opportunity to learn something new. Again, as a parent, these are very important life lessons to learn!
So….we are taking notes and practicing the art of observation, self-honesty and asking those quality questions that will shift his focus… At this age, it is so hard to want to conform- do what the “guys do”.
Gratitude from Aus!
Trusting this reaches you in grand health and happiness.
I have read your book a number of times and am relating to it weekly as I work with my young cousin who is a footballer(Rugby League). It is invaluable. Thank you.
For me personally I also greatly appreciate the meridian chart at the back which notes the emotions and the body parts of each meridian. Thank you deeply for this information.
My daughter and I regularly have tapping sessions and a lot of what you wrote we have been practicing already and a lot of what you wrote we hadn’t….
I look forward to the day when I can share Tapping with many more people in the Peak Performance arena and thank you most sincerely for sharing your experience and expertise.
What an incredible tool Tapping is? How fabulous that it is making its mark in sports!
Once again, sincere thanks and best wishes for all your moments, K_____ , Australia